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Avoiding morning and evening handshakes
Are games and puzzles at your desk a sign of unprofessional immaturity or quirky intelligence?How to work with a person who is going to leave the company and is not liked by any team member?Something to improve in the office and the only one with the feelingResigning: How to phrase email and what to say when sending email to all colleagues when leaving?Is it okay for a secretary to not greet everyone in the morning when there are around 100 people in the office?
I work in an open space office at the moment with ~30 people on the same floor. I tend to arrive early and leave late thus flocks of arriving and leaving people are zooming past me both in the morning and in the evening, each considers it customary to stop by and shake my hand, regardless if I put on my headphones or not.
Not that I am socially awkward (I have some trouble remembering all the faces and names though), but getting pulled out of "the flow"
by turning my head and shaking a hand each time is detrimental for my concentration, which is regrettably not one of my stronger sides. I would much rather shake hands on my own with a [much smaller] pool of local folks.
I work in Eastern Europe (Ukraine).
Is there a "known" silver bullet to stop this custom without being known as an odd guy? I searched The Workplace and considered the options for related questions, however none address this particular situation.
offices concentration handshake ukraine
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I work in an open space office at the moment with ~30 people on the same floor. I tend to arrive early and leave late thus flocks of arriving and leaving people are zooming past me both in the morning and in the evening, each considers it customary to stop by and shake my hand, regardless if I put on my headphones or not.
Not that I am socially awkward (I have some trouble remembering all the faces and names though), but getting pulled out of "the flow"
by turning my head and shaking a hand each time is detrimental for my concentration, which is regrettably not one of my stronger sides. I would much rather shake hands on my own with a [much smaller] pool of local folks.
I work in Eastern Europe (Ukraine).
Is there a "known" silver bullet to stop this custom without being known as an odd guy? I searched The Workplace and considered the options for related questions, however none address this particular situation.
offices concentration handshake ukraine
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
2
Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago
add a comment |
I work in an open space office at the moment with ~30 people on the same floor. I tend to arrive early and leave late thus flocks of arriving and leaving people are zooming past me both in the morning and in the evening, each considers it customary to stop by and shake my hand, regardless if I put on my headphones or not.
Not that I am socially awkward (I have some trouble remembering all the faces and names though), but getting pulled out of "the flow"
by turning my head and shaking a hand each time is detrimental for my concentration, which is regrettably not one of my stronger sides. I would much rather shake hands on my own with a [much smaller] pool of local folks.
I work in Eastern Europe (Ukraine).
Is there a "known" silver bullet to stop this custom without being known as an odd guy? I searched The Workplace and considered the options for related questions, however none address this particular situation.
offices concentration handshake ukraine
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
I work in an open space office at the moment with ~30 people on the same floor. I tend to arrive early and leave late thus flocks of arriving and leaving people are zooming past me both in the morning and in the evening, each considers it customary to stop by and shake my hand, regardless if I put on my headphones or not.
Not that I am socially awkward (I have some trouble remembering all the faces and names though), but getting pulled out of "the flow"
by turning my head and shaking a hand each time is detrimental for my concentration, which is regrettably not one of my stronger sides. I would much rather shake hands on my own with a [much smaller] pool of local folks.
I work in Eastern Europe (Ukraine).
Is there a "known" silver bullet to stop this custom without being known as an odd guy? I searched The Workplace and considered the options for related questions, however none address this particular situation.
offices concentration handshake ukraine
offices concentration handshake ukraine
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
edited 2 hours ago
Joe Strazzere
249k1237271030
249k1237271030
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
asked 2 hours ago
Eugene AEugene A
4311611
4311611
2
Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago
add a comment |
2
Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago
2
2
Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago
add a comment |
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You know this is going to happen and it appears to be important to the culture in your office.
Plan your day so you are doing easily interruptible work (for example, answering emails) at that time.
Don't try to "get in the flow" when you know you will be interrupted
Getting along well with your coworkers is at least as important to your career as writing good code.
You don't need to encourage extended conversation, but it's important that you are thought of as "one of us".
Don't hide.
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
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Easiest option to avoid upsetting others is to find a quiet room for 30 or 40 minutes at the start, and end, of the day so you are just not there when they stream by.
Any other suggestion, such as "pretend a sports injury" etc etc don't work for extended periods...
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
add a comment |
Get a different desk.
It sounds like a big part of your problem is that you are in the natural flow of traffic between the entrance and a significant number of desks. This is also hampering your work. Talk with your supervisor and see if you can't get your desk moved to a more out-of-the-way corner. If they aren't passing by you, they won't shake your hand by default, and it's not something you're obviously doing, so no one is likely to see it as odd.
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
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I have been through the same and I understand that social conventions sometimes are inconvenient (or undesired when involving physical contact like birthday hugs).
In my experience, most people will eventually get used to your preferences. I would explain to each one your reasons and politely ask to say hi in a less distracting way, for example, just waving.
Some will be offended but there is nothing wrong with wanting your focus to remain intact while you work and while you respectfully draw limits, there should be no problem.
Also, talking to everyone individually, you can explain without hurting their feelings, you give the message of being important enough to have "the talk", and give them a chance to process it.
I would avoid just not answering the shake from one day to another because they will probably be confused by the behavioural change and will assume the reason ("he's becoming weird", "what did I do?"), and potentially damage your social life there (not receiving after-office activities invitation, eating alone, etc). Leave the least space to assumptions and you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
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You know this is going to happen and it appears to be important to the culture in your office.
Plan your day so you are doing easily interruptible work (for example, answering emails) at that time.
Don't try to "get in the flow" when you know you will be interrupted
Getting along well with your coworkers is at least as important to your career as writing good code.
You don't need to encourage extended conversation, but it's important that you are thought of as "one of us".
Don't hide.
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
add a comment |
You know this is going to happen and it appears to be important to the culture in your office.
Plan your day so you are doing easily interruptible work (for example, answering emails) at that time.
Don't try to "get in the flow" when you know you will be interrupted
Getting along well with your coworkers is at least as important to your career as writing good code.
You don't need to encourage extended conversation, but it's important that you are thought of as "one of us".
Don't hide.
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
add a comment |
You know this is going to happen and it appears to be important to the culture in your office.
Plan your day so you are doing easily interruptible work (for example, answering emails) at that time.
Don't try to "get in the flow" when you know you will be interrupted
Getting along well with your coworkers is at least as important to your career as writing good code.
You don't need to encourage extended conversation, but it's important that you are thought of as "one of us".
Don't hide.
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
You know this is going to happen and it appears to be important to the culture in your office.
Plan your day so you are doing easily interruptible work (for example, answering emails) at that time.
Don't try to "get in the flow" when you know you will be interrupted
Getting along well with your coworkers is at least as important to your career as writing good code.
You don't need to encourage extended conversation, but it's important that you are thought of as "one of us".
Don't hide.
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
answered 1 hour ago
Dan PichelmanDan Pichelman
27.8k137592
27.8k137592
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add a comment |
Easiest option to avoid upsetting others is to find a quiet room for 30 or 40 minutes at the start, and end, of the day so you are just not there when they stream by.
Any other suggestion, such as "pretend a sports injury" etc etc don't work for extended periods...
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
add a comment |
Easiest option to avoid upsetting others is to find a quiet room for 30 or 40 minutes at the start, and end, of the day so you are just not there when they stream by.
Any other suggestion, such as "pretend a sports injury" etc etc don't work for extended periods...
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
add a comment |
Easiest option to avoid upsetting others is to find a quiet room for 30 or 40 minutes at the start, and end, of the day so you are just not there when they stream by.
Any other suggestion, such as "pretend a sports injury" etc etc don't work for extended periods...
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
Easiest option to avoid upsetting others is to find a quiet room for 30 or 40 minutes at the start, and end, of the day so you are just not there when they stream by.
Any other suggestion, such as "pretend a sports injury" etc etc don't work for extended periods...
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
answered 2 hours ago
Solar MikeSolar Mike
1,696812
1,696812
add a comment |
add a comment |
Get a different desk.
It sounds like a big part of your problem is that you are in the natural flow of traffic between the entrance and a significant number of desks. This is also hampering your work. Talk with your supervisor and see if you can't get your desk moved to a more out-of-the-way corner. If they aren't passing by you, they won't shake your hand by default, and it's not something you're obviously doing, so no one is likely to see it as odd.
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
add a comment |
Get a different desk.
It sounds like a big part of your problem is that you are in the natural flow of traffic between the entrance and a significant number of desks. This is also hampering your work. Talk with your supervisor and see if you can't get your desk moved to a more out-of-the-way corner. If they aren't passing by you, they won't shake your hand by default, and it's not something you're obviously doing, so no one is likely to see it as odd.
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
add a comment |
Get a different desk.
It sounds like a big part of your problem is that you are in the natural flow of traffic between the entrance and a significant number of desks. This is also hampering your work. Talk with your supervisor and see if you can't get your desk moved to a more out-of-the-way corner. If they aren't passing by you, they won't shake your hand by default, and it's not something you're obviously doing, so no one is likely to see it as odd.
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
Get a different desk.
It sounds like a big part of your problem is that you are in the natural flow of traffic between the entrance and a significant number of desks. This is also hampering your work. Talk with your supervisor and see if you can't get your desk moved to a more out-of-the-way corner. If they aren't passing by you, they won't shake your hand by default, and it's not something you're obviously doing, so no one is likely to see it as odd.
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
answered 1 hour ago
Ben BardenBen Barden
5,94931319
5,94931319
add a comment |
add a comment |
I have been through the same and I understand that social conventions sometimes are inconvenient (or undesired when involving physical contact like birthday hugs).
In my experience, most people will eventually get used to your preferences. I would explain to each one your reasons and politely ask to say hi in a less distracting way, for example, just waving.
Some will be offended but there is nothing wrong with wanting your focus to remain intact while you work and while you respectfully draw limits, there should be no problem.
Also, talking to everyone individually, you can explain without hurting their feelings, you give the message of being important enough to have "the talk", and give them a chance to process it.
I would avoid just not answering the shake from one day to another because they will probably be confused by the behavioural change and will assume the reason ("he's becoming weird", "what did I do?"), and potentially damage your social life there (not receiving after-office activities invitation, eating alone, etc). Leave the least space to assumptions and you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
add a comment |
I have been through the same and I understand that social conventions sometimes are inconvenient (or undesired when involving physical contact like birthday hugs).
In my experience, most people will eventually get used to your preferences. I would explain to each one your reasons and politely ask to say hi in a less distracting way, for example, just waving.
Some will be offended but there is nothing wrong with wanting your focus to remain intact while you work and while you respectfully draw limits, there should be no problem.
Also, talking to everyone individually, you can explain without hurting their feelings, you give the message of being important enough to have "the talk", and give them a chance to process it.
I would avoid just not answering the shake from one day to another because they will probably be confused by the behavioural change and will assume the reason ("he's becoming weird", "what did I do?"), and potentially damage your social life there (not receiving after-office activities invitation, eating alone, etc). Leave the least space to assumptions and you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
add a comment |
I have been through the same and I understand that social conventions sometimes are inconvenient (or undesired when involving physical contact like birthday hugs).
In my experience, most people will eventually get used to your preferences. I would explain to each one your reasons and politely ask to say hi in a less distracting way, for example, just waving.
Some will be offended but there is nothing wrong with wanting your focus to remain intact while you work and while you respectfully draw limits, there should be no problem.
Also, talking to everyone individually, you can explain without hurting their feelings, you give the message of being important enough to have "the talk", and give them a chance to process it.
I would avoid just not answering the shake from one day to another because they will probably be confused by the behavioural change and will assume the reason ("he's becoming weird", "what did I do?"), and potentially damage your social life there (not receiving after-office activities invitation, eating alone, etc). Leave the least space to assumptions and you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
I have been through the same and I understand that social conventions sometimes are inconvenient (or undesired when involving physical contact like birthday hugs).
In my experience, most people will eventually get used to your preferences. I would explain to each one your reasons and politely ask to say hi in a less distracting way, for example, just waving.
Some will be offended but there is nothing wrong with wanting your focus to remain intact while you work and while you respectfully draw limits, there should be no problem.
Also, talking to everyone individually, you can explain without hurting their feelings, you give the message of being important enough to have "the talk", and give them a chance to process it.
I would avoid just not answering the shake from one day to another because they will probably be confused by the behavioural change and will assume the reason ("he's becoming weird", "what did I do?"), and potentially damage your social life there (not receiving after-office activities invitation, eating alone, etc). Leave the least space to assumptions and you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
2216
answered 1 hour ago
AurinxkiAurinxki
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Is shaking hands like this every day customary in your region? This would be completely bizarre in the US.
– David K
2 hours ago
Shaking hands is a widespread way to greet people, inside and outside alike here; it's just in this particular office I find it distracting enough to post a question here :-)
– Eugene A
2 hours ago